IIt was beaten recently, as a woman in my 30s, I almost asked about my plans with children. Even in a few times I, the question is naturally in a related conversation and at a time, if I say I want children “, other people who don’t have my kids.
We can do conclusions what it says about other people’s impressions in my lifestyle or my mother instincts. But we choose to see this anecddote in positive light. I imagined that, even new now as 10 years ago, I have to suffer forever temporaries and thinking comments about the so-called “biological clock”. Or about the end of the loneliness of my aging or having a life feeling empty or unmatched, as never happen to children with children.
I guess I really don’t ask it because we now have little children. Last year, the rate of fertility in England and Wales (measured how many children were born every woman in his birth years) the inferior recordof 1.44 children. The number of children born is also the lowest it is from the 1970s. These numbers are often handed as a source of destruction and darkness about the situation in the world. People have no children only because they cannot, let us say, or because they are afraid to come to the collapse of the environment.
There is no doubt that it is true for some people. But this focus can change the other, more straightforward reason: many of us know that if we don’t want the children we don’t need to have it. In the space of some generations many (though not all) with restrictions placed in women’s life, especially, fallen. Girls usually go to university and keep the career they choose. Pressure with a family decreases. And I think relief of that pressure is worth celebrating. (After all, in our time of environmental and social collapse we should take our silver lining where we can find!)
However, I think new if a negative corollary of changes in behaviors is a raging and growing sense of anti-children. I noticed it somewhere. There is always a social media discourse about hostility to talk to children in pubs or cafes or parks. Now we’re on vacations at school I can find a murmur of flowing. There are many kids in my local pub because some of the regular patrons start families. Always felt that a battle was to go, at the locals of all ages who came in and whispered, their eyes were tight when families lasted 20 minutes to the child.
Sometimes there is bad behavior from parents too. Recently some dads carry a group of eight or as children at different ages to spend a hot day to see a puzzle without interest. But I think we can accept that there are bad examples of every demographic and that this group has a lot of time in the park.
That’s not just a pub. THERE A story is just about the extra pub ownersfacing a difficult climate between the cost of living crisis, chose to ban children from pubs to handle this tense. I depend on the hard position they feel they are placed. But for me it feels like a choice they don’t have to do. Also now, if I am in restaurants or cafes, if a parent enters a child or a pin, people start to teach and run their eyes. God would not have allowed if the child began to cry, as the infants did. Struck me less rude and not counter-productive. If you salute an adult in an enemy way you don’t get the best from them. Why is it different from a child?
Although a person who is not first affected by all this teaching and murmur I find it makes it difficult. It felt the melodramatic, no intelligence and, I dared to say, as well as childhood. Also think about that, generally, women still do most of the child’s care. What are we looking forward to doing them? Sit at home all day wearing black, wearing their kids in one of the metal Victorian Fors with the big spokes, so the rest shouldn’t disturb their existence? Is this true that a great deal of hearing a child weeps in the afternoon in a pub? If that’s the price to pay for their mum goes out and close to the world I think it’s more fair.
It is disturbed by me, we can all get to two camps “have children” or “no children”. Those labels are covering many many different styles and choices, as well as sadness conditions forced, rather than chosen. But even if we have or we are not children, it serves us good to think about how we accept children of our public children with our public children. After all, some of us ended up living a life perfectly “free” to children. Myself not. When I arrived at my 30s the girls around me had children. I already have two sons. I have a feeling that I can end up 10 or more. And if I was rich, I might have hired them all the holidays when they were 18 and they could be a bond with God. I thought I’d finish the nieces again and nephews. Or sons. Who knows? Time brings all kinds of different, unexpected relationships with our lives.
The kids I’ve seen in cafes or pubs in my neighborhood are a part of the community like others. The idea of public cleansing cleanses that no children seem to speak a fantasy in a world where the lives we live completely away from the lives of people around us. But of course they are not. And if this fantasy is reality, our life is just a little and fun.
