Archie Bland’s article about his son and the experience of his family mirrors in my own family (The boy who returned: the near-died, and changed life, my son Max, 24 May). My son, now nine years of age, have blood in his small intestine carrying two major surgery to save his health, capability of his health, capability. My life now has been separated between “before 16 April 2023” (the day I almost died my son) and “after”.
The archie is detailed in extreme emotions in each step beautiful. One of the hardest things when you pass near a child’s loss, and the recovery of a child who has changed to return to you, is loneliness. He describes it so much, even if you are lucky to be surrounded by family and friends, it’s hard to do all the people in the world facing this fear, sadness, worried and desperate to help your child.
My Family and I am now in a much better place – much better than we ever thought possible back in April 2023. There is a time when the loudest thoughts will fade – those grief-ridden thoughts about making every moment count and Being useful for your child’s development, the frightening thoughts about your child’s future, and the outright terrifying thoughts about their vulnerability after your own death.
There is a time when they will disappear in the background. They are always there, but the most powerful thinking is your child’s love and how they can be capable of brightening your day with a little gesture or smile. I offer Archie and his family my sincerity is best.
Faaiza Munir
London
