Is it good – or at least, understand – for a child to win another?
I spend a lot of time talking to groups of parents and students about bullying, and usually parents to come to me after a talk in their personal circumstances. A mother once took my thoughts about a situation where his eight-year-old son was accused of oppressing another child.
In my experience, parents often have difficulty believing that their child can argue with bullying; This mother clearly accepts that behavior occurred, however obviously he felt there were circumstances. He explained that the target had a stunning habit of choosing his nose, and it bothered his son, changing.
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He went; Surely, he thinks, there are situations where it is acceptable for a child to win another.
If your child is accused of oppressing another, it can be surprising and provocative. More than understandable emotions, as a parent, many choices will help you understand their behavior and why it is seen bullying.
Let’s explain what it’s what we’re talking about: Bullying means that a person repeatedly and intentionally hurt a less powerful person. Bullying is a bad and potentially harmful behavior, for the target and bullying. Research says children who are bullied Health Health Outcome Such as depression and anxiety to maturity. This is true especially for children both jokes and victims.
I think most people agree that bullying sometimes calls for punishment, and often calls for interference; But is bullying a behavior calling understanding? If your child is aggressive once (without reaching the meaning of bullying), and to self-defense, that can be shocking. On the other hand, if your child oppresses, that repeated torment cannot be forgotten. I reminded the mother whose son bleeding the child who chose the nose harming people, even if it would happen because of a provocation, it should not be held.
What makes it interesting in common, kids don’t move bullying. In a study where scientists interviewed elementary school children (both of those involved and unpacked in bullying) in Sweden to understand How do children see bullyingStudents think that psychological messaging, or alternatives, attention searchers will be social (in other words, they want to see some children see their power and admire it).
Children who murmur to others, however, tend to have excuses for their behavior. In my study of more than 2,200 teensabout 62 percent of those who claim to win others who offer one or more of the following explanations: “People don’t try to understand my point of view or frightened,” or “I really don’t think so.
It is important to understand that children can bully for different reasons. Parents may think to beat as a behavior reserved for real disturbing children. Research, however, shows that Some young bullying If not doing social societies, while others, who tend to be bullying and targets, struggling with friendship and social. It is difficult to believe that a child is good at school and have friends can be a bully.
What do parents need to do when their children are accused of oppressing? How do they handle the protests of their child they are challengers challenged? Do they have to believe their child and accept the reasons for bullying? If the answer is punishment, intervention or understanding – or all three?
The word oppression There are people who are overwhelming, and sometimes apply to any situation (repeatedly, intentionally or not) when someone can hurt others. How do you approach the situation can be different from being separated if the attack of the question has occurred only once, or between two children with equal social and physical power.
If the power dynamic is not equal, and it appears to be a bullying situation, talk to everyone to know the facts. Explain it to all involved you are getting closer to an open mind. The school’s sight is almost certainly different from your child. It’s not hard to imagine a situation where a school counselor explained that your child jokes with another student, but your son or woman claims to be crazy and don’t think. Bullying is a behavior planned. It is not impulsive, an hour’s response to challenge to others. A target can participate in the nose selection, and that can be angry; But the repeated violence against them is not insistent or unconscious.
As many parents are grateful for not believing their child, other than possible explanations do not mean that you are a son who is a son who is a son who is a son who is a son who is a son who is a son who is a son who is a son who is a son of a son a son that was a son who was a son who was a son who was a son who was a son a son was a son who was a son who was a son who was a son who was a son who was a son who was a son of a son a son of a son a liar was a son who was a son of a son of a son of a son of a son a liar. You can say things like: “You mention that you don’t mean to hurt their feelings, but you should have earned a long time to get all the sick words.”
Many children do not yet understand that different people can have different interpretations of the same behavior. It may not have happened to your child that such as self-defense shows that something perfect to others.
If you already know the situation and have a chance to think through it, you are ready to teach your child some life lessons. Learn that some of the situations can irritate your child, but then draw a clear line between feelings, thoughts and behavior. Point out that everyone has the right to their thoughts and feelings, and certainly, people can be uncomfortable, angry or angry. But how you act differently with a feeling. No one has the right to hurt others, no matter what they feel.
You can also discuss alternative actions that help with difficult situations. There is an adult (maybe a counselor or favorite teacher) that helps your child cope with their feelings (instead of doing their aggression)? Maybe a friend can help them feel calm and less aggressive. Or you can help your child find an activity to help them calm down their feelings aggressively.
Be sure to focus on how you choose to do to work can result in the results of the world. Outcomes often need to be appropriate for age, and if possible, they can help correct the harm your child can. If one of my children is a kinderergartner, he humiliated another child because of their favorite financial toy. Our solution is to buy him the child one of the same filled toys, with its own allowance, and give it to the target as a way of saying sorry. My son now grows, but he remembers that stage.
Finally, think about your child’s environment. Think of using their technology. Children vary with the quantity of aggression of video games or, as, on social media influence their behavior. A study of Over 40,000 teens in Russia It is found that social media attacks are very large, but with different teenagers who respond to it very different. Some have asked to copy aggression, while others see it as part of the entertainment in the app. Imagine if your child is likely to act aggressively after interactions aggressively with others online, and discuss with alternative activities while limiting their time allotted online.
Bullying is unhealthy, so think about counseling. Aggressive behaviors can be prevented, but they can also show psychological struggle. A large meta-assessment of many studies found that emotional difficulties so many increasing opportunities to be involved in bullying (either as a bully or victim, or both). Does your child have trouble making or keeping friends? They may also be victims of bullying (unusual for a child to become a guilty and victim of bullying). Maybe your child is facing an association of loneliness, sadness or continuous anxiety. Perhaps their best friend left them. The possible list of stressors can take a long time, but finding professional help can make a big difference in the consequence of a bullying situation.
Children who struggle with aggressive behavior can look forward to summer as a time less strict, and more forgiving, behavioral standards can lighten their stress. But summer is also a chance to talk about and check these situations deeper than your child or teenager. Any practice – including use of violence – benefits from reminders and strengthening positive attitudes. So plan to continue as you move to the school new year and monitor your child to ensure their psychological and emotional needs.
This is an article of opinion and analysis, and the insights expressed by the author or authors should not be American American.
